This month, I’ve written a lot about my experiences with love and my relationship with The Texan. It’s been wonderful to connect with you and introduce myself to you a little bit more. {I’m so brave, don’t you think?} The Texan and I have a beautiful relationship, full of love laughter; it’s a deeply rooted connection. If you were to ask The Texan, he’d tell you that not only does he love me unconditionally, he also thinks of me as a sex symbol.
Isn’t that awesome?
Sadly, I haven’t been able to fully embrace this lately. When we first met ten years ago, I was younger. My body hadn’t gone through pregnancy – did your feet get bigger, too? – and I was a skinny minny. Too skinny, to be honest. But that thin, svelte body with a flat stomach certain had to play a role in The Texan’s interest in me. {As did my friends calling to check on me during our first date!}
It’s still in my head that a sex symbol is all about the slender physique; not about the true beauty of a person. I’m probably feeling that way because of the way I now carry my weight. Seems that since giving birth, I have hips. And that is where everything goes. I can’t stand it any more, and I am doing something about it. Was I more confident ten years ago? I’m not sure, but I was more comfortable in my own skin. I’m looking forward to feeling sexy again and being comfortable knowing that I’m The Texan’s sex symbol.
Does your partner think of you as a sex symbol and do you embrace that?
This post was written as part of BlogHer’s NaBloPoMo February 2013 challenge. Today’s prompt was “Do you think you would enjoy being a “sex symbol?” Sign ups to participate in this month’s Blog Roll have closed. You can still check out the participating bloggers and the daily prompts. Daily writing prompts can often become a great source of inspiration and encourage you to write about things you haven’t previously explored.
Thanks for saying what we all are feeling too. I had my first baby also in 2009 and sometimes wonder if I will ever look like I think I look in my wedding and honeymoon pictures. But someday I know I’ll be saying, “i wish I looked like I did when the kids were little.” Right?
We go to the Cape often and love it. My sister lives in Orleans (the statue house). It would be great to meet you. Your blog is adorable.
Thanks!
It is tough, for me anyway, to feel confident with how I look. Suddenly, the weight is going to different places (namely the hips) and I cannot stand it! I am super excited about starting the Shaklee 180 turnaround program, I think it’s just what I need to feel like my old self. Which is really my younger self, but you know what I mean!
Thanks for the compliment about my blog – I just had this design installed last week and am over the moon about how cute it looks! Next time you’re on the Cape let me know – it would be fun to meet for coffee!
I don’t think I was ever a Sex Symbol. But after 24 years of marriage I think my husband doesn’t care as much what I look like. He cares more about if I am healthy. We both would like to be together another 24 years. 🙂
I am sure that your husband found you sexy, Tammy! Go ask him! 🙂
I know I am not a sex symbol. I have never thought of myself as one.
Todd looks at me and talks about me and treats me like a sex symbol but I dont feel like one since I’ve gained weight (I’m working so hard trying to lose it, lost 30lbs so far but still have so far to go) I use to feel like a sex symbol when I was my goal weight and not only my Todd who MIGHT be blinded by love, but lots of guys did double takes everywhere I went, I am not interested in those guys BUT I know they arent in love with me so not looking at me thru rosy colored glasses.
Woo-hoo! Congrats on your weight loss. That’s a wonderful accomplishment, good luck on your journey!
I totally understand!! I met my husband when I was in HS and about 50 lbs lighter. I feel like I am no longer the woman he married – physically. I’ve birthed our daughter (Yes! My feet got bigger too – grew a FULL size!) which made my body look COMPLETELY different. But he still thinks I am the most beautiful woman. I just wish I could see myself the way he sees me. 🙂
It’s tough, Ashley. Being a mother is the greatest thing that I will ever do, but the changes to the body aren’t so great. I’m working hard at losing weight right now – and I’m having amazing results so far! I wish you luck on your journey, too.
Have a great day!
Awww, yea I know how you feel, it’s tough after going thru “the changes”, but my guy loves me no matter what, no matter the size. But my confidence has been lacking the past few years and it really does affect things more than how I actually look, I decided this year to work more on my confidence to get that sex symbol back 🙂
I definitely plan to embrace that once I have baby #3 this summer. 🙂 Babies are hard on your body!
my husband tells me how beautiful i am almost every day. sometimes i embrace it, but most of the time i dont. i scared of looking at my naked body!
Join the club, Jamie. I am working toward loving the “new” me, but I can’t help but miss my pre-baby shape & confidence. Sigh. It’s a long road, but I am on it now!
Sigh. Since becoming a step mom I have felt REALLY unattractive. I feel like I’m always covered in child liquid, I forget to shower some days, and I’m always too exhausted. But, when when we get a babysitter, get out of the house, I am completely confident. My husband has always told me he loves my confidence. I think that when we have 10 years to grow and become comfortable with ourselves, that’s when we because a truly confident and sexually being.