Am I making the right choices?
I ask myself that question several times a day. How do I know if I chose the right brand of organic corn flakes? Is letting The Boy play on my iPhone going to damage his thumbs? Should I do the laundry now, or wait until there are no towels at all? How do I know if the time I spend creating content for this blog is worth it?
The answer is, I don’t know! {Except for the towels, always wash ’em before you use the last one!}
Yet I struggle to find those answers – and more every day.
As women, we often struggle to fit it all in. Rushing from one activity to the next, barely taking the time to enjoy the moment. And those moments all pass so quickly. Do you what you felt like during those late night feedings when your kiddos were little? I don’t. I barely remember that The Boy didn’t always sleep through the night!
I know that I am fortunate to stay at home with The Boy. I love every minute of every day. Sometimes I have to take deeper breaths to get through a few of those minutes, but I love them just the same. However, I have an entrepreneurial spirit in me. And so do you, if you’re writing your own blog or starting a business.
A while back, I asked myself if I was devoting too much time to exploring those entrepreneurial interests. Around that time, I took a break from my shop and sewing in general. I couldn’t physically sew because of the pain in my elbow but I felt that I was stretching myself too thin. Trying to do too much in the few hours that I did have. Everything was starting to feel fragmented and sloppy.
I know that The Boy is only going to be young once, as he gets older, he’s going to need me less and less. I want to be present in every moment, for every moment. I don’t want to miss anything.
In the fall, he’ll be in preschool three days per week. I’ll have more time to devote to sewing and to writing. I’m going to enjoy the summer months. We’ll be at the beach, at the pond, or just outside. It will be a summer full of adventure and learning. I’ll still have nap time to write content here, and in the fall I’ll balance my time between my shop and the blog.
I think I’m finally making the right choices.
What about you? Are you an entrepreneurial mom who feels spread too thin, too?
This post is inspired by the novel Julia’s Child
Yes!
I always feel that there is way too much week and not enough Rachee to go around! Take time for your self, your son and enjoy!
-r
Enjoy every minute with The Boy. You will NEVER regret it!
It is so hard with the balance. Enjoy the time with him. It goes so quickly!
Yes, I am an entrepreneurial mom who feels spread too thin. I work full time outside of the home, manage my blog and am the primary caretaker of my children when we are together because my husband works later then I do and he works 6 days a week.
I am always stressed out, and feel like I am missing crucial parts of my children’s life because I have to work full time-there is just not a choice right now. I do take great pride in knowing that every free minute I have when my children are awake-are spent with them. I just wish I had more time to spend with them.
Yes! I never have enough of me, I need two more me’s to go around 🙂
I’d love a clone, too! Especially for the not-so-fun chores, like laundry and clean the bathroom!
I find myself asking the same questions about how I spend my time. I can feel confident about my parenting, but somehow when it comes to my own priorities (outside of parenting) I feel guilty no matter what I do. I’ve come to realize that just as our children change, so do we. I am evolving into a new person, and my needs change with the seasons. So I adjust my activities according to what suits me and my family best at the time. And I feel very lucky to have such freedom.
Jen,
Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your comment. I never thought of myself as “evolving into a new person” as my son grows. I appreciate having a new perspective on parenting, I’ve always looked at it as he was evolving – not me. I feel a blog post coming on…
Have a great weekend!
I find myself struggling with this on a daily basis. I feel spread too thin and yesterday my own mother even comments on the circles under my eyes, I told her she should understand 😉 But it is really hard to find that balance or even know if I am always making the right choice. Lately I have found myself just trying to focus and make the little moments I am there for count. I know that by taking the time I need with my blog and working towards expansion (which I am blessed in that I can thankfully work on it while at my FT job), that I am helping to create a better future for my own son in the long run. I am def most guilty lately of letting the little one stay up just a wee bit later then his 7pm bedtime just so I can enjoy those extra moments.
Amy,
It’s important to focus on what makes you happy, and what works for your family. As moms, we need to trust our instincts more and “roll with it”. That’s something I am working on myself.
I will say, though, if you’ve got dark circles you need more rest!
I feel spread thin too. My husband doesn’t think about all the little details that goes into running a household so it’s a in my head. That makes me tired! But I love my coffee!
Before I became a SAHM, I didn’t realize how much work running our home was. We were sharing the responsibilities before The Boy was born. Now that I no longer work outside of the home, I’m running the house solo. It IS so much work!
I chose to stay home and raise my kids as best I can. Whenever I start to feel that my blog is becoming primary focus, I pull back…way back! This past week I made a conscious decision to really focus on why I started blogging. I had a passion for helping others save money, period. Once I start blogging about too much sponsored/commercial posts or running through each FB group to get comments/shares/likes etc. is when it starts to get uncomfortable for me. I always think, if money were no object would I still be blogging? Yes. Would it be sponsored posts? No, probably not! We women have a strong intuition like no other, trust it, it will never lead you astray!
I think not matter what we do, we all feel like we are spread too thin. His thumbs will be fine 😉 and things will get done or they won’t.
Take it from someone who has older kids, the good news is that as your kids get older and go to school you get a little time back, but what they don’t tell you is that your kids continue to need you and demand your attention, it’s just for different things. Still, it’s never dull!
I think it is hard for moms to be a mom and also run a business, as a lot of mom bloggers are doing. I am still searching for that “balance” everyone talks about finding. I know at times I spent too much time on the computer blogging and trying to grow it. It’s just really hard to divide the two.