“Pack your suitcase! Let’s go!!”
What?! Ohmygoshholycownowayreally???
Dreams of an ideal date
I’m sitting here pounding away on my keyboard thinking about the last time The Texan and I had a kick butt kind of date night. Sure, we go out to dinner every few weeks. We enjoy each other’s company and a few adult beverages. Then we return home, pay the sitter and fall asleep on the couch. Well, that’s what I do. The Texan watches Ghost Hunters as he was {im}patiently for my nap to be over. Hoping that there will be more to our date night.
To me, an ideal date night involves a suitcase. I need to check out of being a mom and check in to a hotel. The fancier the better, booked using a discount code of some type is even more fun! I want to sleep in a big bed with a fluffy comforter and crisp linens. I want to order a cheese plate and wine from room service. {Okay, I’d smuggle in my own wine, but would still order the cheese plate.} I want to eat in a fancy restaurant without saying “Please be careful, you don’t want to spill your drink.” I want to stay up late. I want to reconnect with my husband. I want to sleep late. I want to go out to breakfast and take my time eating my french toast.
While I appreciate our normal, run of the mill date nights, I’m always thinking “don’t want to stay out too late,” “don’t want to be too tired for the early morning wake up call,” ” don’t have that glass of wine, you’ll have a headache in the morning.” My own thoughts sabotage the date before it even gets going.
Am I the only one who cannot disconnect from “mom mode” to enjoy a night out with her husband?
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No, you are not alone. I actually won’t even go on a date night unless my in laws watch the kids overnight. I’m weird. Maybe this is why date nights are so sparse in my life, lol.
Wow! Imagine how fabulous your dating schedule would be if your inlaws took the kids one weekend a month! That would be a dream, wouldn’t it?!
I can relate! We don’t get the chance to go out often without the kids, so when we finally do we worry about them more than enjoy ourselves. I like the idea of a hotel and nice dinner! That sounds so much more fun than just going to a local place to eat. I’d love to be able to go with my husband for a weekend long date.
Logistically, I’m not sure that I’ll get my dream date soon, but at least I have my dream guy!
You are not the only one! That’s how I feel too.
We need to figure out how to make it happen! This seems to be the dream of many moms!
I agree that when you have to get up with the kiddos the next morning, you can’t really truly enjoy yourself, and stay out as late as I’d like.
After a day of taking care of little ones, I can barely stay awake long enough to go out for dinner anyhow! Staying out overnight would be a real dream come true.
Have a great weekend!
that would be amazing
I know, right? I’d consider giving up my favorite handbag for one overnight date!
I know how it is to not be able to stop being mom enough to enjoy a date. My husband and I rarely get any kind of date, and when we do it is only 2 hours to eat or catch a movie. I would love to disappear for a weekend or even go out and dance till the sun comes up and not have to worry about the next morning. If you find any ways of making it happen with youngsters, please let me know (and vice versa).
I’d rather go to dinner than catch a movie, but if I can figure out away to stay out overnight I’ll let you know. I have a hard time staying up late, so dancing until the sun comes up is out for me!
I am generally not a night person. Dancing is the only way that I can stay up late. Try to stay out for a movie, even one I love, can’t do it. There is nothing else that can keep me awake, except for dancing (one of my true passions).
My husband says every time we go out rule is not talk about our 3 kids like their names cant even be mentioned, which for me is impossible seeing as im a stay at home mother of 3 all i have to talk about is kid things so it always fails miserably from the beginning
HAHAHAHA! That’s funny, the first thing I usually ask my husband is if he thinks The Boy is having fun without us! It’s tough to talk about other things, even though I DO have other interests.
Have a great weekend!
The last date night we had, we both admitted half way into it how much we missed our daughter! We were pathetic. So of course we ended dinner a bit early, ran across the street to get her a cupcake and picked her up from the sitter. Of course, she didn’t miss us one bit!
That’s too funny! She was probably upset that you cut her time with the sitter short. My son adores his sitter, we’ve used the same amazing girl for about 2 years! He gets so excited when he finds out that she’s coming over, now I wait to tell him until she’s pulling into our driveway.
We have had exactly one date night alone since Bubbles was born – and that was The Avengers screening! Right now we’d really rather spend our nights as a family, but I’m sure when she gets older and begs us to spend the night at her grandparent’s house that we’ll take advantage of the time!
Couple time is so important, I wish I could figure out a way to incorporate more of it into our lives regularly.
Have a great weekend!
It gets easier as they get older. My kids are old enough now that I don’t even really worry about them. We can go out and I don’t have to worry what they are up to or who they are with. We actually go out and enjoy ourselves. 🙂 That’s the best part of parenting. When your kids get older and you know they make good choices.
That’s comforting to know, Tammy! I know it must be nice to go on a date and not talk only about your kids, or worry about what they’re doing!